Do you ever feel like your heart is pulling you in one direction and your mind in another? Yeah, me too. All the time. I'll feel like doing one thing, while knowing I should do be doing something else. My heart is pulling at me with all it's might, but my logical mind won't let me go that way for some reason or another.
The problem with our feelings is that they're not always right. The problem with our reasoning is that we can reason ourselves into anything.
As a normal human being, my feelings are up and down, left and right, North, East, West, and South. They make me want to laugh, cry, yell, and hide all at the same time. I never know what they're gonna do next, and when something emotional happens, I can't deal with it. My heart tells me all these things, and I don't always know what they mean or what to do with the information.
When it comes to reasoning things out, I'm not much better. If I think long enough about anything, I can make it seem okay in my mind. I can convince myself that watching TV for hours is good for me, because I need a break from life. I can get myself to believe that spending $20 on a new shirt is worth it because I don't really need to buy groceries this week. I even convinced myself once that banging my head against the wall would make my hair grow faster because hair was simply dead cells and you killed thousands of cells every time you hit your head.
So, what do you do when your mind and heart are at complete odds with each other? What do you do when you feel like sitting around and watching TV all day, but you know you should be working on something important? Or, how do you cope with a situation where your heart is telling you that you really like a person, but your mind tells you he or she is completely wrong for you? And who's to say that "knowing" the person is wrong for you isn't just another feeling, that of fear or selfishness?
There's another aspect that a lot of people seem to forget about. I know I do sometimes. The last aspect is called, "the will". The will is what makes us do anything. The will unites the heart and mind and turns them into action. When we've got feelings, or thoughts, we often have to choose to act on them or not. Usually, we act on feelings. Sometimes it's just because we get caught up in the moment, or because our feelings are clouding our judgment.
Our will shows us what we really are. My actions show who I am inside. If I feel like hitting my head on the wall in frustration and my mind is telling me that it'll help my hair grow, but I decide not to, then my actions are showing that I'm not insane and people will be less inclined to call me so.
If I really like a guy, but my mind is telling me to go slow, and I decide to go with the flow of my feelings instead of rational thoughts, things could go very badly. I could get myself into a very emotionally driven relationship that will probably end in heartbreak and depression. This action will show me to be a very fickle person when it comes to relationships, and people will be less likely to trust me in the future.
So, basically, I don't have all the answers. I never claimed to. But I know what it's like to have two parts of myself fighting, and only being able to chose one course of action. I know to slow down and think what the consequences of my actions could be. I know that people care less about how I think and feel than they do about how I act on those thoughts and feelings.
Perhaps, one day, my mind, heart, and will be in one accord. Probably not. From what I know about life, I probably just have to deal with it.
These are the times you have to especially put your life in God's hands. I often feel the same way, but I have learned that if I let go and give it all over to God, He will solve the problem for me. If we are completely devoted to God and His Will for us, then we will be happy with whatever He sends our way.
ReplyDeleteAs far as relationships go, be careful not to reason too much. God gave us emotions for a purpose. If you feel attracted to someone, God allowed that for a reason. Maybe you will not end up with that person, but you will definitely gain experience through that relationship. It is possible that person may lead you to grow closer to God either intentionally or not and/or to the true soulmate God has in mind for you. So, don't be afraid to show your true feelings. If it turns out bad, God has a reason for it, but it is most likely that the person you are interested in is feeling the same way you do!
God be with You!
In Jesus Christ Through Mary,
David C.
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